Anonymous asked: I'm surrounded by ignorant cis gender gay people (aka UC Alliance) and I'm fed up. So many of them have stabbed me and my partner in the back or just don't even talk to us when we come to meetings. I'm so tired of feeling invisible, disrespected by people in my own community and feeling ignored all the time. I need to know if I go to CTCG for the first time it won't be cliquey and people will try to get to know me and we won't be ignored. I'm so jaded by queer groups, it hurts. I need help.
First, I’m so sorry that you have had to deal with so much pain where you should be finding love. That is really hard and I can relate, that’s for sure. That is one of the many reasons I created CTCG and I can assure you that it is not a cliquey bunch. The group is very open and welcoming; members are always excited to meet new people. The program itself is designed to make it easy to meet people and find community, so no worries about being the odd ones out. The members are so friendly, you’ll likely leave the meeting with a handful of phone numbers and facebook friends! If you’d like to get an idea of what folks are like ahead of time, I run an online facebook group for trans* identified CTCG members that is closed and secret, so no one can see you are in it. There is one for partners too. The groups are very active, and paint a good picture of what members are like. Just send a message to the CTCG facebook and ask to be added to Trans* Talk, (or to the Partners Talk for your partner). If you’re not on facebook, you can access group info onthe website.
I know it can be hard to come to community stuff, especially when you’ve had bad experiences. That pain you feel is real and justified. Please know that I made CTCG group for folks like you because once upon a time I was you. I was the lonely trans* kid on UC’s campus with no community and no sign or hope of finding any. But unlike me, you don’t have to wait and build something in order to find your people. We are here! And we can’t wait to meet you and your partner, whenever you are ready to join us. :) Until then, drop me a line anytime.
One downside of traveling to the the UP: only one flight in and out! So you gotta get up when no one should. Luckily I prepared by picking up some of these beauties last night. (at Huron Mountain Bakery)